Three Steps To Finding Yourself

“I just lost sight of who I was…” This was the heartbreaking confession of a friend who found himself in a great deal of trouble.

Most of us would be quick to admit that the greatest damage we do in life comes in those times that we forget who we are.

Mark 8:35-36 instructs us to lose ourselves for the sake of Christ. We can be very effective at losing ourselves, but more often than not, we do so for the wrong reasons.


We have probably experienced those moments in life when we forgot who we are. Those times when, we are tempted to forget our values, our character or our purpose in life.

We need to constantly be on guard because life altering sin is only a heartbeat away for any of us.

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I Peter 5:8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:

Satan by deception and lies cause us to forsake the principles and truths God has put in place to protect us.

In the twinkling of an eye we can forget who we are and make choices that can destroy a lifetime of blessings.

It’s easy for us to get lost when we face things like:

  • Broken Emotions

A hurt that is not forgiven will turn into bitterness. Bitterness eventually becomes a lifestyle that results in outbursts of anger. Anger damages our testimony and destroys the relationships we value the most.

Satan loves to exploit broken emotions.

  • Broken Desires

According to James 1:14-15 the starting point for any sin is when we are drawn away from God’s standards by our own lust.

Our broken desires (sin nature) causes us to be selfish beyond our wildest imagination.

Because we are selfish, we are willing to pay any price to satisfy our selfish desires. The difficult part of this is that those desires will never be satisfied.

The flesh will always want more of what God has forbidden and satisfying that desire will always cost us more than we expected!

  • Broken Relationships

John Piper shared an incredible truth when he wrote, “God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him.”

The opposite of that is true as well, we are never more satisfied as humans, than we are when we bring glory to God. If our relationship with God is broken or damaged, if we forget who we are in Him, we open ourselves up to damage in our other God ordained relationships.

So how do we get back to where we are supposed to be? How do we remember who we are?

  1. Remind Yourself Of Who You Are In Christ

Here are three things that will help you to see and understand who you are in Christ – read Psalms, read Psalms and finally, read Psalms.

David is one of the greatest examples in Scripture of someone who forgot who he was.

David called, “A man after God’s own heart,” committed adultery, plotted and then executed the murder of a trusted friend. Yet God’s love and care for him flows through much of this great book.

Check it out for yourself. Open your Bible to the Book of Psalms and get started today!

  1. Find A Mentor

We are not talking about a counselor at this point, although a mentor certainly can counsel. What is needed here is someone to do coffee with.Lost1

A mentor is someone who will not tell you how to get back on the right path, a mentor will walk back to the path with you and make sure you are headed the right direction.

Do you have a mentor? If not who can you find that will be one to you? Call them as soon as possible!

  1. Fellowship / Church

Hebrews 10:25 is not just a suggestion that God wanted to make. Church is something God knows we need. Especially when we forget who we are.

Yes, church it has flaws and hypocrites. The reason for that is it’s filled with other people just like you who have lost their way.

The testimony and struggles of others, may just be the strength and encouragement you need to help remember who you are!

This step is simple – go to church this weekend!

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Battling An Enemy

Have you ever faced an enemy that regardless of how hard you fight; you never seem able to defeat?

SC2 (1 of 1)Our receptionist named him Zacchaeus, the little bird that comes to the office every day to face a mortal enemy – his own reflection in the window.

This little guy’s entire day is spent puffing up, pecking and throwing himself at the window. Each night he retreats, but only to prepare for tomorrow’s battle!

No matter what little Zacchaeus does, he just can’t seem to vanquish his opponent.

Like Zacchaeus, we too face an enemy who challenges us every day. Our enemy stares back at us from the mirror as we arise each day and begin the battle anew.

Three things to expect from our enemy:

  • Our Enemy Is Relentless

There will never be a day that the enemy in the mirror does not want something that God has forbidden.

It might desire the reflection of another who is fighting a similar battle. It might desire the possessions or position of another. The desires of the enemy are endless in number.

God warned us this battle was coming.

Exodus 20:17 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour’s.

The fight is on and the enemy in the mirror will be relentless to get what it wants!

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  • Our Enemy Is Untiring

One of the saddest parts of watching Zacchaeus do battle with his enemy every day, is when he slumps to the ground in total exhaustion from the battle.

The longer we battle with the enemy in the mirror, the more exhausted we will become in the fight. The hard part is that we are fighting an opponent who never seems to grow weary.

Regardless of how long the battle rages, our enemy never seems to tire of seeking to fulfill its desires. This is a 24/7 fight that strips us of our rest, our peace and our health.

As long as we are bound in this sinful flesh and fallen world, the enemy in the mirror will never cease to be pecking back at us, trying to get us to serve its sinful desires.

  • Our Enemy In Is Insatiable

The enemy in the mirror only wants one thing – MORE!

It does not matter how much, or how little we give, there will never be a point that our enemy will be satisfied. The reflection in the mirror will always want more.

One more step toward sin, one more sinful act, one more step away from God and His Word, one more…

Just one more, that’s all that is needed, until the next time we look in the mirror and face the same enemy. Each victory makes our opponent bolder and stronger. We will never be able to quench its desire.

So how do we break the cycle?

The only way we can silence the enemy in the mirror is to change the reflection of what we see.

mm32 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

As we become more and more Christlike, the desires of the one reflected in the mirror will begin to change. There will still be a battle each day, but as Christ works in us, the desires will begin to change.

The desire for more sin will be replaced with a desire for more righteousness, more godliness, more purity, and even more Christlikeness.

The more we become like Christ, the less we will want what the enemy wants. Our desire will change as we serve God rather than self.

The enemy in the mirror will always be lurking there, but we can alter its reflection.

Begin the change today. Write down three things that the enemy in the mirror wants from you right now.

For each item, find a biblical principle that addresses that sinful desire.

Then go read your response to the enemy in the mirror!

The Case For Organized Religion

In recent years it has become a popular thing to declare one’s freedom from organized religion.


While some declare they have proudly walked away from the church, others declare they are no longer Christians, but Christ followers. You get the general idea.

What is interesting about all of this independence, is that the Christ they claim to be following away from organized religion, worked just fine within the confines of organized religion.

  • He kept the Passover.
  • He celebrated the feasts and special days.
  • He followed the Jewish Law.
  • He honored the Sabbath.

We never find Jesus resisting organized religion. What He did resist was the abuse of organized religion by arrogant, prideful, abusive religions leaders.

It’s fair to say that many times when someone proudly walks away from organized religion, it is not religion itself that is the problem.

More often than not, the problem is two selfish sinners (a church member & a religious leader) who choose not to take care of business the way the Bible instructs them too.

In other words, two sinners who are not getting their own way.

The danger in stepping outside the boundaries of organized religion, is that it opens us up to error, isolation, lack of accountability and false teaching.

Every church is going to have struggles and flaws because it’s a divinely decreed organization trying to operate in a cursed and fallen world. But it’s positives far outweigh its faults!

Organized religion provides us with:

I. Solid Doctrine

We define doctrine as a body of knowledge about a certain topic or belief.

While Christ sealed our eternal destiny, the Apostle Paul tells us to work out our own salvation with fear and trembling. (Philippians 2:12)

He is telling us that our growth as Christians is our own responsibility.

Our spiritual growth is one reason it is so important that we avail ourselves of the solid doctrine presented through Bible believing churches.

When we step away from the organized church, we open ourselves up to doctrinal error and cultism.

II.  Accountability

We can’t just walk away from 2,000 years of Christian values and tradition!

For many, organized religion is automatically equated with legalism. Could I go so far as to say that in some instances legalism is of great value?


When I first became a Christian, I needed the structure and accountability of organized religion to help me overcome some of the personal struggles that I was facing as I tried to break free of my past.

Recent studies show that millennials are beginning to return to organized religion because of the structure and discipline it offers. They are looking to old mainline denominational churches that offer traditional services and values.

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III. Biblical Teaching

When someone walks away from a Bible believing church, they step away from Biblical teaching. Often they begin to interpret the Bible according to their own desires and needs.

One of the greatest benefits of Biblical preaching and teaching is that it brings us face to face with ourselves! It challenges our thinking and causes us to check our thoughts and actions.

God has commanded the preaching and teaching of the Bible to protect us from sin and error in this life. Biblical teaching will warn us and make us aware of the pitfalls in life. It is as Proverbs says, A lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path! (Psalm 119:105)

I hope you are not quite ready to give up on organized religion. Potentially, every person can benefit from what organized religion has to offer.

How different would our world be if instead of walking away from organized religion, we asked, “How can we allow it to have a greater impact on future generations?”


What value do you find in organized religion?